Monkeys Play By Sizes
When a man tells you his dreams and aspirations, you should not look at their beauty and the sweetness of the sound; ask yourself if you can handle it. He wants to be a pastor; are you carved out for a pastor’s wife? Can you cope with the long weeks of fasting and the rigorous morning and evening bible studies (which means you cannot have sex when and where you want)
Can you wrap your mind around the fact that you cannot put on your wild anklets, have body pierces and tattoos and ‘cleavaging’ dresses? Oh and you must, most likely, change all or some of your friends because they do not fit in the ‘kind of people who should be a pastor’s wife’s friends. Are you ready for that? Are you ready for that drastic pruning and makeovers? If you can’t, don’t waste his time. Don’t get into his life and aspire to change him to suit you. You will not know true happiness. Every office has its own demands, if you are not for it, stay out of it.
Are you ready for a man who travels most part of the year working all over; can your sexual drive as a woman, contain a man who is only in town for a few days? Do you think such a relationship or marriage will make it easy for you to be faithful? Can you handle a man whose idea of wealth and prosperity is to open his gates to his family and to yours and to the general public without amassing anything for himself? Can you live with a man who, by nature of his work, is always surrounded by women? She earns good cash, sits on top of the corporate ladder, comes from a prominent background; all good. With all this power concentrated in the hands of a woman, have you ever taken it upon yourself to find out within yourself, if you have what it takes to date and marry such a woman? Do you have what it takes, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, Knowledge-wise and in terms of maturity to be called her husband? Can you afford a woman of such enormous worth? Demands of people vary with education, exposure, biological growth, maturity, economic empowerment, social standing, spiritual maturity among others. So do not grab a woman because she is all that, and do not allow yourself to be deceived into a relationship because the woman is all that. If you are not in tune with her reality you cannot live inside it. You do not let your ego, as a man, deceive you; not all women are carved for every man. You cannot go about spreading your authority and demanding that women bow before you. Where were you when she was building herself up? If you don’t have what it takes to live your life with such a woman, in all the constraint of her life and its experience, do not waste her time. In front of some women, some men are as powerless as prisoners, and until a man faces that reality, he might bully himself into a relationship but will chicken out overnight, raving and ranting and calling names. I DO NOT THINK SUCCESSFUL WOMEN ARE INTIMIDATING; WE SIMPLY DON’T HAVE A LOT OF QUALITY MEN WHO CAN SIMPLY COMMAND RESPECT FROM SUCH WOMEN... Let me use a simple laundry for example... for a regular Hankie, a six-year-old can wash and rinse and squeeze it dry. For a regular tee shirt a 12-year-old can do that job...how about adult size jeans or a beach towel? You need a certain amount of strength and muscles to get it washed and squeezed... What about white clothes? It’s for Grown-ups who understand the art of washing and knows where to wash.... not all women are for all hands... some requires more tact to manage, others require strength; be it emotional, spiritual, mental and financial strength. Some require only knowledge. If a man shall therefore seek first himself out and know what his weight is, he might make wiser decision in choosing a woman...
