I Recently started dating this guy, and per some of the advice you offer online, I decided to have serious conversations from the get go. We agree on most things except when it comes to spirituality. We are both Christians, but I am Charismatic and he is Presbyterian. This has not been a problem for now, but it is clearly going to be a problem in the future. He says he will not move an inch from his church. I was baptized into my current church at a tender age. I don’t know any other church. This has left me worried. He is a good guy and I see my life with him. I am deeply spiritual and I want to be on the same page with my husband. What can we do about this? I am also not moving an inch, anyway.
I am happy you have found love. Love is beautiful and when you find a man you see your future with, you do all you can to hold on to him. But I also understand the importance of spirituality in our lives especially when we consider it to be key to our existence.
I am not sure which Charismatic Church you belong to, but the Presbyterian Church is a good church. You are both Christians and I want to believe you have similar beliefs. If you are part of any of the mainstream Charismatic churches we know, then that should not be a problem. If push comes to shove, you can go to your separate churches, and have a family fellowship at home (centering it on Key Christian topics that you both agree on). When your children are born, you can take turns in taking them to your individual churches until such a time that they may choose, based on the tempo, and then later based on doctrine, which church they want to belong to. Salvation is individual.
Really, Jesus did not start Church A or B. If Christ is preached on a holy altar, from the Bible by honest and righteous people, then that should be it even if it is a two-man fellowship. Ultimately, it is where we go hereafter that counts. Since you have no proof it would be members of your church or his, pray that, ultimately, wherever you may collectively or individually belong to, may be the right place to stand on the final day, and that when the trumpet is sounded, you will be at peace with your maker.
However, if your doctrines and rituals differ markedly (which you can only tell after you have taken time to compare both denominations, text for text, not by how active or boring one is) then you may want to decide if that is good enough a cause to make you go your separate ways, or marry and not talk about spirituality.
But it is important that if it matters to you, then you two should be on the same page. It helps for family unity and oneness of purpose when you pray. But in all of this, pray that the will of God is done.
I wish you all the best. Have fun and keep the conversations going.
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